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Within the lead as much as the Might 5 vows, Nikki Bella and John Cena had been nonetheless wrestling with the identical points.
From the beginning of their romance, the 13-time WWE Champion had been open about the truth that he by no means wished to wed, nor did he wish to begin a household. And 6 years within the pair appeared to have labored out a compromise: Cena would make Bella his bride, however he merely wasn’t keen to offer her a child. However as they inched towards their Mexico-based wedding ceremony, they every gave the impression to be having second ideas.
“I’d by no means drive you to not be a mother,” Cena advised his tearful fiancée, in a sneak peek of Whole Bella‘s third season.
Her response—”I believed I may actually sacrifice that and I simply cannot,”—led him to drop a bombshell: “I am undecided we should always undergo with this.”
Finally, they did not. On April 15—lower than three weeks earlier than they had been to grow to be husband and spouse—Cena and the two-time WWE Divas Champion introduced they’d made the “tough” choice to separate, including, “We proceed to have a substantial amount of love and respect for each other.”
However that mutual respect could not get the WWE energy couple a shared path. A supply near the 34-year-old bride-to-be (one half of the game’s standout Bella Twins) insists to E! Information that Cena, 40, “by no means actually wished to get married within the first place.” And the problem over whether or not to have youngsters was much more contentious. “One of many greater disagreements they’d by means of their relationship was that Nikki wished to begin a household and John did not,” says the supply. “They weren’t on the identical web page in that respect.”
The couple’s love story started in 2012. 13 years into his skilled profession, Cena had secured his place within the trade because the self-described “goody-two sneakers Superman,” and longtime face of the model. Bella, in the meantime, had made a reputation for herself competing in tag-team matches along with her twin sister Brie.
Partipating in the identical circuit, Bella and Cena had been buddies for years. However she was nonetheless floored when the athlete—popping out of a three-year marriage to highschool sweetheart Elizabeth Huberdeau—approached with a easy query.
“The primary opening line was, ‘Hey, do you wish to go to dinner with me?’ and I used to be type of like, ‘What? With me?'” she recalled in a 2013 interview with TribLive Radio. “It simply type of began out like a dinner date and I’ve to confess we had been buddies for thus a few years, however then whenever you make it romantic, I could not even say a phrase to him.”
Regardless of her preliminary embarrassment—she joked that Brie poked enjoyable at her for blushing, dubbing her Sizzling Cheeks—their outing was successful.
Labeling it her “finest first date” to WWE she recalled, “There was an enormous, good-looking man with a tremendous smile and dimples. He got here to my lodge and picked me up as if we had been in the identical metropolis and took me to a pleasant steakhouse. We simply talked and chatted for hours.”
On their second outing, the 6-foot athlete upped the ante: “We simply had a tremendous dance in the course of the restaurant,” recalled Bella. “Nobody’s ever performed that with me.”
The truth is, Cena took strides to fill their union with candy spontaneity, whether or not he was dressing up as his gal for Halloween or shocking her with a $15,000 purse she’d deemed too costly to purchase herself. However he made it clear there have been a number of issues he may by no means do for her.
“I will not get married once more and I will not have youngsters,” the Massachusetts native declared on a 2013 episode of Whole Divas.
His first union had ended with accusations of infidelity and, as he defined to Rolling Stone, he simply wasn’t positive if he could possibly be a stable husband. “Each marriage and household are very tough obstacles for me,” he defined throughout on episode. “I really feel so s–tty as a result of there are specific issues I can not give.”
Understanding Bella, aunt to 11-month-old Birdie, wished youngsters, the wrestler and actor (after showing in a handful of films for WWE Studios, he transitioned to the mainstream with turns in Trainwreck, Daddy’s Home and most just lately Blockers) puzzled if pushing her away may finally be his kindest transfer.
“I am attempting to be a realist,” he mentioned in 2014. “I’ve advised you I do not wish to get married and I do not wish to have youngsters, and also you do wish to get married and also you do wish to have youngsters. I really feel like there is a time bomb over my head.”
And Bella agreed she wasn’t positive if she’d remorse not having youngsters, however she was so blissful with Cena that she reconciled herself to a ring-less future.
In spite of everything, she had been married as soon as to her highschool sweetheart. By no means thoughts that it was a Las Vegas elopement at age 20 that she stored hidden from her household. Or that after they exchanged vows in entrance of an Elvis impersonator they by no means truly lived collectively.
“After we bought married, we did not speak for much longer, after which we realized, a number of years later, after we began relationship different individuals, ‘Oh, hey, we should always break up,'” she recalled on Whole Divas.
With that behind her, Bella thought perhaps she may forgo a second shot. That feeling intensified as she watched costar Nattie Nedihart wrestle in her new union. “I will admit,” she confessed to Cena on an October 2014 episode, “seeing them undergo all this makes me not wish to be married.”
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Her sister, wed to fellow wrestler Daniel Bryan, was much less satisfied. Cornering Cena on digicam, she revealed how troubled she was when her twin revealed she had modified her stance on marriage and motherhood. “Nicole and I had been speaking and she or he dropped at my consideration that she’s over marriage, she would not wish to have youngsters anymore,” mentioned Brie. “It was a bit alarming to me.”
However Cena reasoned it wasn’t like he’d pulled a bait-and-switch. “I used to be abundantly clear about that from our very first date. It wasn’t like I attempted to govern your sister into pondering a sure factor was going to occur after which all of the sudden say, ‘Ha ha,'” he recounted. “I like this woman, however I like my life.”
By 2015 it appeared that perhaps his love for Bella would win out. “I am seeing him extra open to marriage,” she revealed to E! Information that September. “No less than we’re taking steps ahead, and I actually could not think about my life with out him.”
A 12 months and a half later—as Vegas bettors had been laying cash down on the potential of Cena proposing—he dropped to bended knee after the pair’s victorious bout at April 2017’s WrestleMania33. Explaining he’d “been ready so lengthy to ask you this,” he introduced her with a four-and-a-half carat diamond that represented their four-and-a-half years collectively.
“I discovered the precise particular person,” he later defined on the Immediately present. “I discovered a powerful person who I think about an inspiration. An equal. Somebody once I’m down, can decide me up. It took an individual that sturdy to vary my life.”
Desirous to wed—”I can not wait too lengthy, he may run off!” she joked to E! Information—Bella rushed to place collectively the day she described as “tremendous intimate” and celebrated with a 10-day Paris bachelorette social gathering in March.
Cena, in the meantime, performed the a part of her excited husband-to-be. Simply days earlier than their break up, on the Apr. three Blockers premiere in L.A., he gushed to E! Information, “I believe the perfect factor about me having the ability to ask her hand in marriage was she would not have to query my dedication to our relationship. I’m along with her to dying do us half.”
However whilst they stuffed in the remainder of the main points—their mixed 5 nieces would function flower women and her Dancing With the Stars accomplice Artem Chigvintsev would offer pointers for a primary dance—it was clear they hadn’t fully solidified their plans for the long run.
Opening as much as E! Information, she admitted she did not suppose Cena would change his stance on fatherhood. “John had talked about this a very long time in the past when he wished to get married, he mentioned, ‘I simply don’t desire you to ever suppose that if I wish to marry you and I marry you that signifies that I wish to be a father,'” she defined. “And I advised him, ‘I 100 p.c agree. I do know that it doesn’t matter what, you do not wish to be a dad.'”
However because it seems, there is a large distinction between figuring out the reality and accepting it. As a result of whilst Bella advised E! Information, “I do not even have hopes of a child,” she admitted to holding on to a bit wisp of a prayer. “If John rapidly someday wished a child? As a result of he is like, ‘Hey, let’s do it.’ Properly, I am completely sport,” she mentioned, “and I believe my ovaries will probably be good for a very long time.”
The way in which Cena noticed it, although, was that he simply did not have time to be a workforce participant. And there was no higher proof than their pup Winston—a French bulldog Bella noticed in a New York Metropolis pet retailer and ended up having to divulge to her sister.
“Look, I do know I can’t deal with elevating a baby. It is like with the canine,” Cena defined to Rolling Stone in 2016. “My largest factor to Nicole concerning the canine was: Love canine, however I can not contribute to caring for one. I haven’t got the time.”
Similar goes with youngsters, he reasoned: “Simply because everybody else is proud of youngsters doesn’t suggest that is how I’ve to dwell.”
Now he’ll navigate life his approach. Alone.